Loving one another

I heard recently that women need love and men need respect. For a man, 'Thank you' is the same as 'I love you' for a woman. Think about that - you might be working hard as a woman, tired at the end of the day and your man has done the one job that you asked him to do and now expects you to thank him? 

The answer to that question is yes - if you want him to keep doing those jobs. You see, men are simple in that they need respect and gratitude. They need to feel like the are providing value and being the provider for the home - without that feedback they turn away, looking for other opportunities to find purpose.

Women's needs are different. Women are complementarity to men in that they nurture and care. They are social creatures who thrive in do many ways that men find difficult. They need love and crave love.

What I'm finding as I get older is that happiness didn't come from within but is reflected back at us in those we serve. Often by putting others first we really are putting ourselves first also. We will benefit but maybe not now or even in this lifetime.